- Sometimes INFJs will have hunches or gut feelings they can’t explain. The INFJ may know something without quite being able to put their finger on why or how they know it.
- To be an INFJ is to read others well, grasping their emotional states and motivations in mere seconds. But others don’t seem to “get” INFJs as easily as they “get” them. INFJs often wish for someone to understand them as well as they understand others.
- People of the INFJ personality use their intuition to penetrate below the surface. They get into other people’s heads and figure out what makes them tick.
- It’s not unusual for INFJs to absorb other people’s emotions. They don’t just sense the emotions of others — sometimes they actually feel them in their own bodies. The closer the person is emotionally to the INFJ, like a spouse or a best friend, the more likely it is that the INFJ will absorb that person’s mental state.
- their Introverted Intuition helps them see the big picture, notice patterns, and make predictions for the future based on the patterns they’ve observed.
- Due to their third function, Introverted Thinking (Ti), they paradoxically can be quite analytical and scientific.
- In the presence of strangers or casual acquaintances, INFJs might seem reserved and shy. In reality, INFJs are extremely relational — it just might take a while for this side of the INFJ to come out. Their ability to empathize creates strong bonds of intimacy — perhaps one of the greatest strengths of this personality type.
- they can be passionate, enthusiastic, and talkative when in the presence of someone they feel comfortable with. Likewise, when they’re fighting for a cause they believe in — like asking people to sign a petition to end animal abuse — they may come across as extroverts. However, INFJs are true introverts who prefer a small circle of friends to a large network of casual acquaintances. And introverts by definitionneed plenty of downtime to recharge their batteries.
- Due to Extroverted Feeling, INFJs have a strong need for harmony in their relationships. They’re always striving to build rapport with others — and they value people who do the same in return. When conflict arises, especially in close relationships, the sensitive and emotional INFJ may become extremely distressed. They may have trouble sleeping or concentrating, perhaps even feeling the stress of the conflict physically in their bodies through headaches, muscle aches, an upset stomach, etc.
- INFJs look for friends or a romantic partner who are their “soul mates.” These are people who truly click with the INFJ and can feed their very real need for authentic connection, intimacy, and meaningful conversation. However, INFJs often struggle to create the kind of relationships they desire. When they do find people with whom they truly connect, it feels like a miracle.
- INFJs will not be content living a shallow life. Simply working to pay their bills will leave them feeling empty and restless; in order to be happy, they must be working to help others and ultimately make the world a better place.
- INFJs love discussing personal, big-idea topics. They especially love helping other people understand their complicated, messy emotions and grow. But don’t worry, INFJs will never use your vulnerabilities against you.
- From a young age, INFJs are obsessed with understanding human nature. They yearn to not only know others on a deep level, but also themselves.
- INFJs are among the most social of introverts. Sometimes they are even mistaken for extroverts.
- INFJs require some amount of routine and orderliness to function at their best. Their plans tend to be fairly loose and flexible, however, because they are intuitives, not sensors.
- INFJs are not the type to just go along with the crowd.
- INFJs tend to like minimalist environments, because too much stuff in sight can overwhelm their already busy minds.
- They often feel like conversation falls short of conveying their deepest ideas and feelings, so they turn to creative expression.
- No one likes to be manipulated or misled, but INFJs especially loathe it. They pride themselves on taking the moral high ground, being as honest as possible with others, and being a force of good in the world — so it’s especially appalling when others choose the opposite.
- INFJs enjoy pleasing others and making the people in their lives happy. When people don’t recognize that the INFJ frequently makes sacrifices for them — or they rarely make sacrifices in return — INFJs may become resentful and frustrated.
- INFJs crave harmony in their relationships. To flourish, they need emotional support and a sense of approval from their loved ones. When someone frequently shuts them down, pokes holes in their statements seemingly “just for fun,” or is very combative, INFJs hate it, and will close themselves off from this person.
- When others seem oblivious or are outright rude or mean, INFJs hate it.
- Their minds are made for strategy, creativity, and visionary thinking. Having to focus on small details, routine maintenance, or their immediate environment requires them to use their least-developed function, Extroverted Sensing.
- Words really matter to INFJs. Positive, encouraging words calm them and lift their spirits. Negative, critical words can immediately bring them down and leave them ruminating for hours or days.
- Arguments, tension, and drama are like poison to the sensitive INFJ. They may even feel physically ill when fighting with a loved one or when there is constant, underlying tension in a relationship.
- Even if you had plenty of friends, you never felt like you truly fit in.
- You’ve been known to suddenly cut people out of your life when they’ve hurt you one too many times. It’s not that you enjoy cutting people out, rather, you do this simply to protect yourself.
- You almost always have this sinking feeling like you could be doing better with your life.
- You care deeply about the people in your life, but they’ll probably never know just how much you care, because you keep your feelings mostly to yourself. You can have trouble articulating your emotions, even though you feel them intensely.
- You love learning, especially when it comes to psychology, self-improvement, spirituality, and certain sciences.
Like the ISFJ, the INFJ wants harmony and for everybody to be good to each other. But INFJs tend to be much more concerned with how that plays out on a big, society-wide level. They are born to be activists, organizers, and crusaders for the things they believe in — which are almost always about helping the downtrodden, injured, or misunderstood.
That means that acts of injustice take a real toll on an INFJ, and large acts of cruelty make them downright angry. Of course, we all hate seeing injustices on the nightly news. But INFJs fundamentally believe we can do something about it — and they have zero patience for cynics, apologists, or anyone who is flippant about the unfairness of it.
If you think it’s “fun” to play devil’s advocate about acts of injustice, good luck. As far as the INFJ is concerned, your own cruelty is now embodying the injustice you’re taking the side of. You’re gonna want to watch your fingers when that door slams. Bye Felicia!
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